By Magi Helena
Want to know how to date online? Want the dos, the don’ts, and the real secrets to meeting someone special? Let’s talk!
It can be, if you know the secrets. Online is just how you meet. After that, it’s really just normal dating. Here is the KEY: It’s not about where, it’s not about how, it’s WHEN you meet a potential date that counts! TRUE. Getting the right start at the right time can make all the difference between true love and heartbreak. Keep reading to learn how to get your personal right timing for love, plus more tips and tricks for getting and keeping it.
Online Dating Tip #1: Use Your Unique, Personal LOVE TIMING
Not all days are the same for you to meet your perfect match or take your relationship to the next level. Some days are great, some are terrible. Timing really is everything! You have to know when you are having these personal cycles:
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Advice on online dating apps? There are a LOT of online dating apps and dating websites! Do some searching to see which dating sites and dating apps feel best to you and which would most likely have potential dates for you. Consider your age and what you are looking for. Some apps or sites focus in long-term relationships, some on hookups. Some people have better luck on smaller, more specialized dating apps or dating websites. Be sure to join on a good PERSONAL LOVE DAY! The best days are when you have personal Cinderella cycles and no personal Heartbreak cycles. More info on this below.
How to write a successful online dating profile? Keep it simple and not too long; too many words can seem desperate. List the things which are most important to you, the things you believe in, the things you care about.
For ideas, look at other online dating profiles and notice what feels good to you.
Be 100% yourself. Your unique vibe is what will attract kindred spirits. If you aren’t presenting yourself authentically you won’t draw in the potential dates who are ready to like you and love you just as you are.
Be sure to use your personal right timing for love when you post your online dating profile!
Take a good hard look at your relationship history. For now, forget about what your ex(s) did or didn’t do. Your power rests only in yourself and what you can learn from your history.
Learn from your past. Don’t beat yourself up, but do LEARN THE LESSONS so you won’t repeat old mistakes.
Look in the mirror. Looks aren’t the only thing but they do make a first impression. If you don’t like what you see, consider:
Setting health and fitness goals
Updating a few wardrobe pieces
Creating a new look or getting a makeover
One of the easiest ways to get better with people is to watch experts in action. Notice people in your life who have great people skills, or celebrities who seem to have natural charm. Pay attention to the way they stand, sit, move, and speak. Listen to what they say and observe how they listen to others. Then, just imitate them. It may feel strange at first, but with practice, better social skills can become totally habitual and natural. Easy, happy interactions leave everyone feeling good.
Even if you think you know what you want relationship-wise, re-visit your goals. Some people may think or say they want a long-term relationship when that isn’t really what they want at all. Make sure you know what you’re looking for, though it’s not necessary to tell your date right away. Don’t scare someone off by talking about a long-term relationship on the first date. Let things evolve with time.
Want to get better at online dating? Pay close attention to the other person. Be more interested in listening to their story than in telling your own in the beginning. In their online dating profile and on every call, text, email or meetup, your potential date is giving you a constant flow of info about themselves. Notice what they are showing and telling you. Learn to read between the lines. Listen for what is said and what is unsaid. Pay close attention for clues about their intentions, their future plans, their strengths, their challenges, their family, their relationship history. Especially watch for tell-tale signs of your worst deal-breakers. Most red and yellow flags are visible early on if you’re paying attention.
What is the etiquette of online dating? There’s no clear set of rules that you can count on everyone to follow, so you need to forge your own online dating path. Here are a few online dating etiquette tips:
How to truly connect while dating online? You may not connect as deeply as you’d like for a while. This isn’t wrong, this is healthy! True intimacy needs time and trust to grow. Your new date isn’t your BFF or your therapist. Save the discussion of your deepest fears or childhood traumas for your besties. While dating, keep your most private info private for a while. Don’t lie but don’t tell all too soon. Get to know the other person. Let them be a little curious about you. When you give out TMI you leave them wanting less. Instead, leave them wanting MORE!
How about email when dating online? In a similar vein as tip #6, don’t overwhelm your date with emails, calls or texts. Notice who is initiating contact and making plans to meet in person more, and you’ll know who is more into the relationship. It’s really that simple. If you are doing most of the initiating you have no idea if they are really into you, or just bored, or just being polite. Keep the initiating about 50-50 and then you have a clearer idea about the other person’s level of interest. Energies always need to stay in balance for a relationship to work long-term.
This tip goes back to tip #1, understanding your personal love timing. If you are single and want to meet your soulmate, you need to understand your personal, ever-changing cycles. The two most important cycles for love are Cinderella cycles and Heartbreak cycles.
Cinderella cycles are the times when you can meet your soulmate. For those in a relationship, Cinderella cycles are the times when you can advance the relationship and/or push for greater commitment. During Cinderella cycles, people see you in your best possible light. Your charisma and ability to make a good impression are at a peak.
When you are having Cinderella cycles and no Blackout cycles- get out there! Don’t waste this special opportunity. Join an online dating site or several, sign up with a matchmaker, accept every invitation you receive, attend events, go places, take classes, ask your friends to set you up, look your best every day, and keep your eyes open!
The more concurrent Cinderella cycles you have on a given day, the more likely you are to meet your soulmate on that day. On your very best days, meet in person with as many people as you can. Keep first meetings short – schedule coffee dates, not lunch or dinner dates, to “lock in” the positive stars with as many people as possible. These are also great days to attend singles events for the same reason. Then, you can take your time deciding which of those relationships are worth developing and which are not.
If you don’t meet your Soulmate this time around, don’t panic! Everyone has many multiple-Cinderella days in their life. Get ready for the next ones.
Heartbreak aka Blackout cycles:
Heartbreak cycles are your very worst times to meet a soulmate or push for commitment. You’ll only meet a heartbreaker or risk your relationship during these cycles. During Heartbreak cycles, you are very UNLIKELY to meet your soulmate even if you also have Cinderella cycles. Knowing when new meetings would likely lead to heartbreak can save you from wasting months or years on someone that would ultimately be a serious disappointment or worse, and maybe missing your soulmate in the meantime.
Be patient and use your Blackout cycles to get ready for your Cinderella cycles. If you’re hanging onto an old flame, a wishful relationship, or an unfulfilling relationship, release it now! Do whatever grieving you need to do – even if it really hurts. Release what didn’t work so you’re ready for something better. Don’t miss your soulmate during your next Cinderella cycles because you’re still holding onto something going nowhere. Remember – you don’t have to let go of the dream you had for a bad or wishful relationship, you only have to let go of the reality! KEEP YOUR DREAM for when you meet your true soulmate.
Blackout cycles are the perfect time to work on your ability to be in a healthy, loving relationship: analyze old relationships to understand your part of what went wrong, get some therapy if you need it, read self-help books, work on your attitudes, learn better relationship skills. We all have some room for improvement in these areas. Physically, take this time to get in shape so you’ll feel and look your best.
There are a lot of ways to improve your odds when online dating. Being on the right online dating sites or online dating apps is one. Being your best and writing a successful online dating profile are important too. Listening to your intuition, staying safe, and keeping the energies in balance also help. But,
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About Magi Helena
Magi Helena’s “Your Daily Astrology” column is syndicated to hundreds of newspapers throughout the United States and internationally, with a daily readership in the millions. Helena was voted Best Los Angeles Astrologer in 2019. She is one of only two Magi Astrologers, and the only woman to have been awarded the highest certification in Magi Astrology. Helena discovered and copyrighted astrological algorithms which can predict relationship outcomes with 95% accuracy, and she is the inventor of two varieties of digital products: Star-Timer® Personal Astrology Calendars and Love-Stars® Compatibility Reports. Before she transitioned into full-time astrology, Helena spent nine years as a Jungian Hypnotherapist and facilitated a weekly women’s support group. She is the author of two books: Build Your Dream Life, and How To Sing the Uni-Verse.